Overcoming Problems: Short & Sweet Thought Of The Week

You are HERE. Now what?

You are HERE. Now what?

Okay! This post won’t take a minute to read, but should help start your week off right. When your day (week/month/year) starts with a plop instead of a bang, how do you cope? Do you wallow, cry, hang out in your pj’s and rant about your problems on Facebook?

Nah. You’re a smarty-pants. You do THIS:

  1. STOP wringing your hands over “the problem” and call it a challenge instead.

It’s only a problem if you think it is. And if you think it’s a problem and you focus on it and worry about how horrible it is, the problem often becomes that much bigger. Example of a problem: I am sick to death of my blog and I do not want to write one more stinking blog post, EVER AGAIN. (Note: This is just an example, not taken from real life. We love our blogs). So instead of calling whatever-it-is THE PROBLEM, name it a challenge instead. It becomes less like Everest and more like a rise in the road. No biggie. You’ve overcome massive challenges to get where you are. Okay? Good. Let’s move on.

  1. State exactly what the problem challenge is. Explain the challenge. Define it.

Example of “the problem” renamed the challenge: Where can I get some fast, breezy, quick, fun ideas for blog posts that will re-energize my blogatude? Okay, good. Now that it’s defined, I bet you’re already beginning to think of possible work-arounds. (Here’s a post that will help: 101 Fabulous Blog Topic Ideas.) Keep brainstorming ways to overcome The Challenge until you have three solid ideas.

  1. Prepare three potential solutions for the challenge.

Say your personal challenge this week is to boost your sagging book sales. Challenge Solutions – Examples: Drop the price on the first in the series and submit to a few good book promotion sites, staggered over the next few weeks. Or, have the covers re-done. Or, mount a massive campaign to submit to book bloggers to gain more reviews, because we know reviews sell books! Or, put together your own blog tour. Or, heck, just sit around and eat ice cream and cry. Which idea does NOT fit?

  1. Decide on a course of action, then prepare an action plan to overcome the challenge.

This means choose one of your productive ideas, and not the “eat ice cream” one. Better yet, choose a few ideas and put them into an action plan to accomplish over time. Hint: rather than venting on Facebook, you can ask your Facebook friends for constructive ideas that will help you overcome your challenge. People love to help!

  1. Place your plan into action.

Get out your calendar, day planner, online organizer, or the shreds of old, torn envelopes that you keep your notes on, and cobble out the sequence of the steps you need to take to get where you want to go. And then, here’s the big secret: ready? YOU HAVE TO DO IT. It’s not brain surgery. We all have down days. Angst and confusion are only an issue when we allow them to continue past their welcome. Get over the pity party and get to work!

Readers, what do you rely on to help you get over “problem” days? Leave a comment and share!

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17 Responses to Overcoming Problems: Short & Sweet Thought Of The Week

  1. Deborah Jay September 8, 2014 at 3:39 pm #

    Ha! Have you been doing a bit of psychology studying, Molly?
    This is exactly what we do in sports coaching to produce Positive Mental Attitude – the approach of winners 🙂
    Great share.

    • Molly Greene September 8, 2014 at 3:42 pm #

      Deborah, I needed a personal kick in the pants this week – so I dragged all of you along with me!!

  2. Pat Gragg September 8, 2014 at 5:18 pm #

    I treat myself to Caramel Butter Pecan ice cream, then I feel great.

    • Molly Greene September 8, 2014 at 5:28 pm #

      Ha! Pat, if I ate ice cream every time, I’d be house-bound. You must not have to take up the spoon that often!

  3. Brian Spare September 8, 2014 at 5:41 pm #

    Misery loves company.

    • Molly Greene September 8, 2014 at 6:06 pm #

      Brian, sad but true!

  4. Ilenya Marrin September 8, 2014 at 6:08 pm #

    I am new following you but love this. Sounds a lot like some of my comments in forthcoming book, Nurture Yourself and Keep the Change. Glad I subscribed to your blog!

    • Molly Greene September 9, 2014 at 7:44 am #

      Thank you so much, Ilenya, welcome to the blog, and best to you on your upcoming release!

  5. Carrie Ann Lahain September 8, 2014 at 7:01 pm #

    I deal with my “challenges” by:
    1) Moaning

    This quickly gets annoying. So I move to:

    2) brainstorming solutions…usually by checking out what other writers have done.

    As I gather my info, I:

    3) Find a way to help someone else with THEIR challenge.

    It’s a good distraction and a building little good Karma can’t hurt, right?

    Great post, by the way. So sensible. Even if ice cream is more fun than actually WORKING on our “challenges!”

    • Molly Greene September 9, 2014 at 7:43 am #

      Ha! Thanks, Carrie – and I usually do the same thing, which is to whine for a while before I get on with it. Great point about helping someone else, and so very true – also Google is my best friend when I have a challenge, as the search engine often takes me right to a solution. Thank you so much for sharing!

  6. Julie Musil September 8, 2014 at 7:50 pm #

    Excellent advice! When I’m having a rough time, I write down what I’m thankful for. There’s nothing like gratitude to put “problems” in perspective!

    • elainepinkerton September 8, 2014 at 9:04 pm #

      Gratitude works for me every time. Seems to cancel out the perceived setbacks. Yes, hiking and yoga shift my attitude. On the less healthy solution, there’s always ice cream (my favorite: butter pecan). I think of bad days as a patch of bad weather and dwell on the knowledge that this too will pass!

      • Molly Greene September 9, 2014 at 7:39 am #

        Thanks Elaine, and YES! Gratitude, getting outside for a little exercise, and ice cream do help. Best of all though is the thought that this one day is only a small stumble and the pace will pick up soon. Thank you so much!

    • Molly Greene September 9, 2014 at 7:40 am #

      Thanks Julie! I also try to write down – or at least THINK – of five good things that have happened in any given day. The list usually puts the one bad thing in perspective.

  7. Ruth Harris September 9, 2014 at 6:26 am #

    I look to the Brits for guidance: Keep calm and carry on.

    Not always easy to do (especially when tearing hair over tech hassles) but actually it works.

    • Molly Greene September 9, 2014 at 7:34 am #

      Perfect, Ruth! I’m going to put that on a sticky note and keep it by my computer. A walk around the block helps me put tech issues in perspective – of course, they’re still there when I get back, but my mind is usually in a better place. 🙂