That voice in your head? Make sure it’s friendly

My future is bright and beautiful. Link here to read Louise Hay’s Daily Affirmation for today.

My list of regular “to do’s” now includes repeating affirmations a few times every day. Wait! Don’t stop reading. I’m NOT trying to ride the coattails of the Law of Attraction folks. Although it is an excellent philosophy!

Actually, this all started with my friend Johna, the Queen of humor and life-loving and being happy in the moment. I used to cringe when she would say, “Life is perfect,” (ack!) because I thought she was jinxing herself, calling the wrath of the universe down on her head, begging the devil to notice her and screw up every last little crumb of happiness.

My personal philosophy was when life was going well, I’d begin to anticipate a call from the IRS, listen for the knock on the door with news someone had run over the dog. You get the picture. I thought good times only visited once in a while, and I had to take care not to scare them away. Now I know better. I understand that like all of us, Johna may want more, have hopes for the future, be striving for improvement – but, although she has dreams and aspirations, Johna is one of the Lucky Ones who knows life is perfect, just the way it is.

When my friend Ginger gave me Rhonda Byrne’s The Secret three years ago, I started to get excited about the possibilities that, like Johna, I could live in a world that was great more often than not. Because I began to see that the difference between myself and Johna wasn’t what I actually had, it was how I perceived my experiences. She noticed and appreciated the good stuff. I focused on the crap. She got more good stuff, I got more crap.

So I wrote a few affirmations around how I wanted to “be.” Question: What is an affirmation? Glad you asked. Basically, positive sentences crafted in the present tense that describe or declare what you want to be, do, or have, and constructed as if the goal had been accomplished. Say again?

Two wonderful people who’ve really grown the affirmation/positive self-talk movement over the past few decades (long before the marvel of Rhonda Byrne) are Louise Hay (You Can Heal Your Life) and Shakti Gawain (Creative Visualization). Read their work. They explain it much better than I ever could.

Trying to program my brain to think good thoughts didn’t work at first (still doesn’t work, some days). My mind can be a shrieking psych ward, teeming with all sorts of imagined rants and verbal paybacks. It was difficult to overcome the mental chatter about wanting to rave and shake a finger (guess which) in someone’s face over some perceived slight. But I stuck with my affirmations because they provide a safe haven, a reminder of what I believe I can do, where I want to go, the person I really want to be, what I want to achieve, and ultimately what I (and you!) deserve. These steadying mantras offer my mind a calming retreat when I’m in doubt, irritation, frustration, or disappointment. Hmmm. Translation: Most of the TIME.

My biggest challenge is a sneaky belief that “it’s not happening fast enough,” and I peel my thoughts away from this rocky path a million times a week. Literally. But that’s how you change a habit (or a life), isn’t it? Decide that what you want is more important to you than what you have, then get in the trenches and do the hard work.

My list of daily affirmations:
I am whole, perfect, strong, powerful, loving, harmonious and happy (from The Secret!)
I am healthy, wealthy, compassionate, joyful and wise
I am a calm, patient, tolerant, joyful woman
I think only happy thoughts, and only good things come to me
Every aspect of my life is improving daily
I earn more than $100,000 profit every year from my exciting, self-employed writing career (Go ahead, snicker. I can dream.)
I always attract exactly the right people and circumstances to help me quickly and effortlessly achieve all my goals and dreams
I am living my ideal life
I am open to receive

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9 Responses to That voice in your head? Make sure it’s friendly

  1. Erin May 12, 2011 at 8:44 pm #

    I love this post. Thank you so much for sharing it. I love your affirmations and applaud you for believing in yourself and moving forward with this. It’s beautiful! (and why not dream about making $100,000 a year by writing? Some day, you keep believing it, it will happen. The Secret had some good things in it that have been said over and over throughout the years.) You can do it!

    (on a personal note, just this last Jan I wrote out a list of things I want to accomplish. The list is posted on my wall next to my computer. It’s14 items long. I’ve accomplished 5 of them already and am about to embark on a 6th). 🙂

    If you believe you can achieve. 🙂

    • Molly Greene May 12, 2011 at 9:55 pm #

      Thank you so much for taking the time to comment, made my day. I applaud and support you in your dreams and can’t wait to share your victories!!

  2. Linda Rodriguez January 14, 2012 at 4:01 pm #

    Oh, yes, Molly, one of my longtime favorites, Louise Hay. “I am open and receptive to all good.” I always think the awards I’ve won and the books I’ve had published have all come from affirmations I’ve said to the universe for years. I’m so glad you’ve taken the turn for the positive in your perception of the world, and I support your affirmations and dreams as truth.

    • Molly Greene January 14, 2012 at 4:07 pm #

      Linda! What a pleasure to see you here on my blog – thank you so much for your support! Some days I’m definitely more upbeat than others, but overall I look forward to what the universe will bring!

  3. Phantomimic February 3, 2012 at 5:06 pm #

    I once read that happiness depends on how you view things (e.g. you are not dateless you are date-free). Alas, I wish it were that easy because often the circumstances overwhelm me. I crave for those happy voices you talk about. I wish they would come to stay but they stubbornly refuse to remain with me. Then again, that may not be a bad thing. Dissatisfaction, anguish, and anger are sometimes the driving force that makes us engage problems as opposed to ignoring them hoping that they will go away. But it’s a double edged sword. It can hurt you too. : ^ (

  4. Rae Ellen Lee February 23, 2012 at 2:08 pm #


    I loved your post. Patience is hard for me, too. Things rarely happen fast enough, but I definitely believe my affirmations have been helpful. Another positive effort is called ho’oponopono, that Hawaiian healing/forgiveness method. If one googles Joe Vitale plus that word, there is excellent information. A friend I told about it has had some astonishing things happen by using this notion.

    Thanks again for your thoughtful post and for sharing so generously.

    Rae Ellen

    • Molly Greene February 23, 2012 at 4:39 pm #

      Rae Ellen, my latest mantra is “I am clarity.” I hope if I act “as if,” it will come. I also love “I am joy” and “I am solution.” One thing I know is that I’ve met some truly inspiring people over the past year and feel blessed – yourself included. Thank you so much!

  5. Sydney Aaliyah March 29, 2012 at 7:13 pm #

    I tend to think that God (or the Universe, how ever you like to think of it) is just balancing life out for us. Good thing are going to happen and bad things are going to happen. That is just how life is. Under that philosophy, people may not enjoy the good because they are waiting for the bad, but I tend to enjoy the good, so I have some nice memory for when the bad stuff comes. It is all about how you look at it and what ever works for you.
    Thanks for making me think, Molly.

    • Molly Greene March 30, 2012 at 6:31 am #

      … and thank you so much for the thoughtful reply!